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In my previous post I promised to give you 3 more good reasons to attend the office Christmas party at your spouse or significant other’s job, regardless of whether or not you suspect a workplace affair.
Office Christmas Parties are Breeding Grounds for Workplace Affairs
Office parties tend to be breeding grounds for infidelity and extramarital affairs. A number of studies confirm that the workplace is the #1 place where cheating men and women find willing partners with whom to have an affair. One study found that 73 % of the cheating men and 42% of the cheating women met their affair partner at work.
According to one private investigation firm, affairs between co-workers are more likely to be initiated at the annual holiday party, than at any other time of the year. You need to attend this all-important company-sponsored social event with your spouse or significant other if you want to safeguard your relationship, and discourage a possible workplace affair.
Prevent a Work Spouse Relationship from Becoming a Workplace Affair
The annual Christmas party is prime time for a work spouse relationship to make the transition to a workplace affair. Fortified by a few drinks, one work spouse may say or do something to their work husband or work wife that could lay the groundwork for taking their work spouse relationship to the next level. Your presence at your spouse or significant other’s office Christmas party could keep their work spouse relationship from turning into a workplace affair.
Keep Predatory Co-workers at Bay
Make your presence known to your mate’s co-workers and stake your claim. If a co-worker has been secretly admiring your spouse or significant other all year, the office Christmas party is when they’re most likely to make their move. Being there with your mate will put a damper on those plans. Even the most brazen co-worker who has designs on your spouse or significant other, is likely to have second thoughts about making a play for them with you there.
Stop Sexual Escapades at the Office Party
It’s fairly common for employees to sneak away from the office party to engage in sexual shenanigans. In a survey by Trojan Condoms, 49% of office workers said they’d be willing to have sex with a fellow employee at the Christmas party if the opportunity presented itself. Accompany your spouse or significant other to their company Christmas party, and reduce the chance of such an opportunity presenting itself.
If you Suspect a Workplace Affair
What if you suspect your spouse or significant other of already being involved in a workplace affair? Since workplace affairs are usually difficult to detect, the office party is one of the best chances you’ll have to find out if what you suspect is true. By watching your spouse or significant other interact with opposite sex co-workers, you’ll be able to tell if they’re having a workplace affair. Their body language and behavior around each other will give them away.
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1. Face reality.
Ignoring your husband’s infidelity will only make matters worse.
2. Let him know you know.
Sometimes this alone is enough to make him stop.
3. Speak up and take a stand.
Make it clear that you disapprove and tell him you want it to stop.
4. Rely on your support team.
Confide in a trusted friend. Don’t try to go it alone.
5. Identify the underlying issues.
What are contributing factors to his infidelity?
6. Realistically evaluate your situation.
Consider all your options. Can the marriage be saved? Or is it beyond repair?
7. Seek counseling for yourself and for your marriage.
Get professional help.
8. Protect yourself sexually.
Your health is at risk if he’s having unprotected sex.
9. Find out your legal rights.
Consult an attorney who specializes in matrimonial law and have him explain what you and the children are legally entitled to.
10. Put your financial house in order.
Take a realistic look at your current financial situation and make the necessary adjustments.
11. Equip yourself to earn a living.
Don’t stay just because you’re financially dependent on your cheating mate.
12. Prepare yourself mentally and emotionally.
Accept the possibility that your marriage may end, and begin formulating a workable strategy now.
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The key to catching a cheating spouse or lover on New Year’s Eve is to observe his or her behavior close to midnight on New Year’s Eve, or first thing on New Year’s Day.
Making Contact with the Other Woman or Other Man
Regardless of whether you and the cheater are out partying, or quietly bringing in the New Year together at home, he or she will usually attempt to contact the person they’re cheating with to wish them a Happy New Year. Cheating spouses and lovers can be amazingly resourceful in coming up with excuses to get away from you long enough to make a phone call, send an e-mail or text message, or even make a quick visit if the Other Woman or Other Man lives nearby. Stay alert and you may even catch the cheater in the act.
Unusual or Suspicious Behavior
Be suspicious of any unexplained absences, whispered conversations, or sudden errands that your spouse or lover has to run shortly before or after midnight on New Year’s Eve.
If for some reason the cheater is unable to contact his or her lover on New Year’s Eve, they’ll do so at the first opportunity on New Year’s Day.
Cell Phone Clues
If you can get access to the cheater’s cell phone (or the cell phone bills with their December and January calls) you may be able to find some valuable telltale signs. Look at the last calls made on December 31st (New Year’s Eve) or the first calls made on January 1st (New Year’s Day.) If you find any suspicious or unfamiliar numbers, use a reverse phone search service to find out whose numbers they are.
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March 19th, 2009UncategorizedIn my previous post I promised to give you 3 more good reasons to attend the office Christmas party at your spouse or significant other’s job, regardless of whether or not you suspect a workplace affair.